Your Comprehensive Guide to Being the Best-Dressed Wedding Attendee

      Are you set to attend a wedding soon? Maybe even a few? I can relate. While my social calendar has calmed down lately—now focusing more on kids' birthday events—I once found myself attending countless weddings each year, exceeding 50 in total. Black-tie events? Consider me in the circle. Cocktail parties? We’re close. Beach-chic gatherings? I'm very familiar! Regarding dress codes and shopping for them, I’ve learned a lot and am here to help you navigate wedding guest attire successfully this summer and beyond. From dresses suitable for every dress code to complementary bags, shoes, and jewelry—both classic and trendy—you'll find everything you need to achieve the perfect look while feeling great.

      Let’s discuss gowns and long dresses. Based on the venue and the wording on the invitation, you can choose to elevate your look with structured silhouettes and longer hemlines or go for a more relaxed slip-dress style or ankle length. I usually choose black when investing in gowns since they are versatile and unobtrusive, but there are also some gorgeous burgundy and butter-yellow options trending right now that are hard to overlook. Regardless of your choice, ensure it feels right for the occasion and that you’re putting your best foot forward for the couple.

      Now, let's move on to the interesting part. Does the invitation specify cocktail or semiformal? Anything from mini to midi dresses is fair game. For casual events, I would still recommend wearing a dress or matching separates, but you might opt for more laid-back footwear and accessories. If there's a theme or destination-based dress code? Good luck! Just kidding! Don’t hesitate to reach out to the couple or their close friends if you’re puzzled about the meaning of a theme or unique dress code. If it’s beach-themed or vacation-oriented, I like to inject fun prints or colors into my outfit while also considering the climate and setting. No shoulder pads at the beach—if you know, you know!

      Now for bags, we can really have some fun—or not! I see two types of bags suitable for weddings and events. One category includes classic black, metallic, or neutral bags that you can use repeatedly and pair with any dress you own. The other category consists of bags that become the focal point of your outfit rather than just blending in. For instance, a vibrant bag that refreshes your classic black gown or a shell clutch that adds a beachy vibe to a simple dress. You might want both styles or just one. Either way, there are plenty of options to choose from.

      When it comes to jewelry, I believe that if you're going to invest in something, it should be versatile enough for more than one outfit or occasion. Whether it’s a $100 or $1000 piece, select items that you'll want to wear regardless of current trends or upcoming events on your calendar. This way, when you’re ready to accessorize your dress, you’ll have options that you truly love. Did a cocktail watch catch your eye? Have you always wanted a tennis necklace? Or are statement earrings your go-to? Whatever you choose, sticking with classic, timeless pieces that reflect your style ensures you'll wear them repeatedly.

      And then, there are shoes! Choosing the right footwear can be tricky; even I find it challenging at times. First and foremost, comfort is essential. Weddings last a long time, and you don’t want to be struggling to walk or taking your shoes off early in the night. Consider the venue as well. Is there grass? Sand? Does it require a casual or more formal option? And think about your dress: does it call for a statement shoe, or do you need something understated? It’s tough to select the perfect pair without knowing all these factors, so I suggest having at least one of each type and more options below.

      This article was previously published and has since been revised.